Frequently Asked Questions
If you are in Brighton, Moulsecoomb, Lewes, Hove, Portslade, Southwick, Shoreham by Sea, Rottingdean, Peacehaven and Lewes, you can easily access my practice. I am five minutes' walk from Moulsecoomb station and on major bus routes.
Directions - please phone or email me for my postcode in order to use Googlemaps.
My email form is for enquiries about counselling sessions only. I am unable to respond to business-to-business emails.
Higher Bevendean is next to Moulsecoomb, is easily accessible by car or bicycle from central Brighton and ten to fifteen minutes drive from Lewes and Hove. The 49 bus is frequent and stops right outside my door.
Attendance and Cost
Sessions can be weekly or fortnightly £70 for one hour. All sessions must be paid for in full on the day, cash, bank transfer of PayPal.
I do not offer free first sessions.
If you are late for your therapy I cannot extend your hour.
I am happy to do home visits if you cannot travel due to disability. There will be a small charge for any location of more than 5 miles journey.
Appointments: 9 am to 5 pm Monday to Friday only.
For an informal chat, please call me on 07429 409336.
'A big thankyou - I can't tell you how much it helped. I feel happier than I have felt in a very long time and more importantly I am not scared to tell people how I feel anymore. I am optimistic about life again and looking forward to every minute of what it has to offer.'C.W.
Frequently Asked Questions
Within the core of each of us is the child we once were. This child constitutes the foundation of what we have become, who we are, and what we will be.” Neuroscientist Dr. R. Joseph.
What is my professional background?
I am a fully registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.
I have been training and practicing psychotherapy and counselling continuously for many years in private practice, in different agencies, clinics and via GP referral.
Government recognised Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling. I am an integrative, person centred counsellor
Graduated in holistic body centred psychotherapy with an Institute inUSA over six years.
Biodynamic work, Chiron Centre for Psychotherapy
Couple counselling (USA(
Accredited addiction counsellor
College counsellor for young people,
Domestic violence and HIV/Aids.
My ethical code is from a wide range of trainings, but mainly the BACP.
I do not work with people who have been diagnosed with serious psychiatric disorders.
Anne Sexton: “It doesn’t matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was.”
Counselling addresses current crises or issues to do with life stages or events by engaging with someone supportive to work things through. We look at issues from our early environment. Psychotherapists help people uncover the reasons for current difficulties aiming at insight. This involves deeper self exploration.
Q How does it work?
A A contract is formed to work on issues together without judgment, with honesty, and mutual regard.
I do not adhere to any religion or belief system but my style is underpinned with Buddhist, Taoist and Native American philosophy, systems theory, body-mind theory and other forms of therapy including Gestalt, NLP, Feldekrais, Gendler, Reich and many other sources. Deep process psychotherapy is particularly effective for trauma and abuse issues.
Q How long will it be before my issues be solved?
A Clients are encouraged to begin to understand and take responsibility for their own process as soon as they can.
Q What sort of issues can be addressed?
A For most people, feeling unduly stressed or unhappy by circumstances we don't feel we can control, when a relationship breaks down or if we reach a stage in life which presents unusual difficulties, life is frustrating, unsatisfying or we are concerned about our own responses to other people and environments.
WHAT COUNSELLING IS
WHAT COUNSELLING IS NOT
CHOOSING YOUR THERAPIST
Who can I trust?
Your counsellor should be someone with varied life experience and who is emotionally stable enough to cope with a wide range of distress but also trained and experienced.
Will it work?
Counselling will never be an exact science - sometimes the benefits are not obvious in the short term. Human beings are incredibly unique and complex and counselling is not a panacea for all life's difficulties.
How do I know if my counsellor is competent?
Due to the need for confidentiality, it is difficult for us to gather testimonials! But much of my practice so far has resulted from word of mouth referral.
Will I have to tell the counsellor embarrassing or private things?
You don't have to provide specific details if you don't feel safe enough to do so. Feelings and general responses are more important.
Why should I pay for counselling when I can get it free?
Some volunteer counsellors are very well trained and experienced. But being paid ensures that we can earn a living as counsellors and continue to learn and develop to meet the needs of our clients.
How long does it take?
Anything from a few weeks to a year or two.
How will I know when to finish?
You can leave therapy at any time, but when to complete your therapy is a joint decision between client and practitioner.
Why don't you work with under-16s?
Young people with serious issues are best seen in family therapy where possible and I am not qualified as a famly therapist.
WHAT IS THERAPY?
Some people think counselling something to do with being mentally unwell, weak, or in some sort of distress that they should be able to cope with or is somehow shameful, none of this is really true.
Terrible things can happen to anyone, and not everyone can overcome difficult issues alone. I really love and care for the people I work with, and most come to the end of the process very happy that they got up the courage to try
There is often joy and satisfaction in therapy.
It is my job to be clear about what is mine and what is the client’s issue. Good therapy is always about the client.
Among outcomes are being able to set better boundaries, having much better relationships and better responses to stressful situations, understanding what you can fix and what you can’t, and letting go of old wounds and hurts.
Therapy is aimed at evolving into someone you’d like to be. This does not mean programming in something that wasn’t there. It is more like uncovering, the layers of stuff we don’t need.
Those of you who know roughly how computers work may enjoy this metaphor.
I believe that we are born with a sort of hard drive. That is our Operating System. It’s got our genetic programming in it. It might be one or another brand of drive too – that represents the basic family into which we are born, our origin and our family.
Your operating system needs to be fully updated and compatible with the other systems around it.
But some people don't start with the right OS, and it doesn't get updated.
Others don’t get enough useful software.
And we all know what it’s like to try and work with outdated software.
You’ve probably already gone into your System, and clicked on Add and Remove Programs. But there’s a couple of stubborn ones that just won’t move! Therapy helps you update or uninstall.
I don’t have the answers to how best to run anyone else’s life, my skill is to support them in figuring that out themselves but with me on their team for a while.
For those who are unsure about how they came to Be who the Are, here's an example, from the Late Kurt Cobain of Nirvana:
......I was spanked all the time. My dad would be in a social situation in restaurants or something, if I spilled a glass of water or something he would get me in a headlock and dig his knuckles into my head or smack me in the face. I never understood that why a parent would be so embarrassed or so intimidated by other people in a restaurant just because your child spilt something by accident to have to punish them for having an accident, that’s a weird psychological trick to play on a child because I still put myself down and cuss myself out for knocking things over I get really upset with myself because I’ve been conditioned to not spill things, don’t have accidents, not to have human error, everything’s supposed to be perfect at all times, f..xxx him for that. (This quote is from an interview available on YouTube.)
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